My Philosophy

My Hope for You

I believe each person has a unique grieving experience. It is my hope that in working with me, you will feel supported to move through your heartache and struggles to become your best self. Rather than answers and diagnoses, I use a non authoritative approach that allows my clients to take more of a lead in discussions, allowing space for personal insight and reflection.

My goal is to explore with you how to get to a place that makes your grief, anxiety, or depression more manageable. Through empathetic listening, I provide a safe and sacred space where you can be yourself without judgment.

Philosophy of Companioning grievers

Dr. Alan Wolfelt, the director of the Center of Loss and Life Transition, calls it “companioning”. I like this word because it demonstrates that I am on the journey with you, that I am there to learn from you, to honor you and your pain, and to be there for you as you move through it.

If you are struggling with family conflict, my goal is to assist you as you begin to create healthy boundaries and redirect your energy toward positive relationships.

For adopted persons, the search for identity can be a life-long process. Additionally, adoption is founded on a loss that is often not recognized. This primal loss can re-surface unconsciously or consciously during significant dates or significant life experiences.   

I aim to support you by making room for you to explore the complex emotions and thoughts that surface. I have an Advanced Clinical Certificate and am an adoption competent therapist through the Center for Adoption Support and Education.

The 11 Tenets of Companioning 

 

by Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D
The Center for Loss and Life Transition

1. Companioning is about being present to another person’s pain; it is not about taking away the pain.
2. Companioning is about going to the wilderness of the soul with another human being; it is not about thinking you are responsible for finding the way out.
3. Companioning is about honoring the spirit; it is not about focusing on the intellect.
4. Companioning is about listening with the heart; it is not about analyzing with the head.
5. Companioning is about bearing witness to the struggle of others; it is not about judging or directing these struggles.
6. Companioning is about walking alongside; it is not about leading or being led.
7. Companioning means discovering the gifts of sacred silence; it does not mean filling up every moment with words.
8. Companioning is about being still; it is not about frantic movement forward.
9. Companioning is about respecting disorder and confusion; it is not about imposing order and logic.
10. Companioning is about learning from others; it is not about teaching them.
11. Companioning is about curiosity; it is not about expertise.

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